Blind Spots

Wow! I just had a huge realisation—I don’t have my shit together anywhere close to where I thought. Ouch.

Life has been kicking me from multiple fronts lately, but the biggest wake-up call has been with my youngest son. I just realised how much I’ve been projecting my own fears onto him and repeating patterns I experienced at his age.

Becoming a parent certainly humbles you, but this was next level. I truly thought I was aware of my patterns and triggers, that I was “doing the work.” Turns out, I had some serious blind spots.

So, what now? Cry? Absolutely! I cried and cried… and then I cried again today. I allowed—and will continue to allow—the feelings of fear, shame, and regret to move through me as freely as possible. Snot dripping and all.

But along with letting my emotions flow, my intention is to be kind to myself. To offer myself the compassion I deserve and need. I’ve spent my whole life bumbling around, trying to “get things right,” to be a better and more evolved version of myself. Looks like there’s still some bumbling to be done. Sigh. Time to add a few drops of acceptance along with self-compassion.

There’s a delicate balance between self-compassion and accountability. I don’t believe in self-loathing or harshness, but I also don’t believe in playing the victim. We are responsible for our own growth. Increasing our awareness—our consciousness—is one of the greatest challenges in this life. But waking up to our own blind spots, conditioning, and triggersis necessary. Because the alternative? That’s even harder.

What’s Been Helping Me?

🌬 Breathwork. This practice has helped me manage my fight-flight-freeze-fawn responses, creating the space to observe and release old wounds so I can be more present.
👥 My coach. She has been my cheerleader, compassionate guide, and kind mirror, helping me stay grounded, break limiting beliefs, and move foward with my vision.

You Are Not Alone

My purpose and passion is to support others in being kind to themselves and thrive in life.

Don’t let fear and shame disconnect you. What the world needs now more than ever is connection.

💖 You are not alone, and you don’t have to do this alone. 💖